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Quote: My wife is asking me if she should leave the house, since she knows that this is hurting me.
She is trying to make you make a decision for her. DON'T DO IT.
Possible responses: 1) If you feel you need to leave, that is your choice. 2) I don't want you to leave. (period, say NOTHING else)
Looking back, I'd handle it this way (BTW, I'm in month 14 of DBing): 3) Say nothing. Let her vent. Validate her feelings. niether say yes/no to this question. I believe she's fishing and trying to 'test' your commitment to her. Change the subject. Show unconditional love through ACTIONS, not words.
Other Advise: VALIDATE, VALIDATE, VALIDATE and LISTEN: She says 'it's the only way'. Validate with 'I'm sorry you feel that way'.
GAL (Get A life). Start finding activities/hobbies/stuff YOU find enjoyable, and start doing them.
'Act as if': ANYTIME you have interactions with her, smile and be happy, even if it's killing you inside. Smile and be happy with YOURSELF!
