I am sorry you are feeling so low today. My W does the very same thing to me. It seems like her life is just one long fun vacation right now, without any responsibilities or anything. Standard MLC fare.
Just curious, how does your XH pay for all the party lifestyle and for supporting kids etc? He has to be doing some work?
Arrghh - I went to sleep for 2 hours this evening because I'm so exhausted by this sitch. I feel really ill.
"I wish if he's left me for good that he would just let me get on with my life. Instead, he's emailing me and texting me and making pointless contact for no reason and I'm just furious." - He seems to want to keep you in orbit. Just the same thing that you had said to gabriel and just the same thing my W does. Keeping me in orbit while she sits on the fence.
"If this is actually going to lead anywhere, fair enough, but otherwise, I just want my life back and I feel like I never can with him messing it up." - It has been so long, I cant believe you have been there for so long and continue to keep hope. I dont know how you do it.
"Help, I feel as if I am the WAW."- Perhaps this will actually help? It seems to me that the last time you got him to respond was when you filed for divorce. But you are doing everything you can to keep him at a distance. I dont know what else you can do.
You are doing superhuman things, Jo. It is going to wear you down sometimes. I hope you get through this bad patch.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
