I just wanted to clarify that anyway as it really isn't usual for me to have male friends unless they are online.
There's you guys on here and my life-coach was a man but other than that I don't know any men (oh, my publisher is male).
Literally ALL my friends are female and I don't generally go places where there are any men, so mentioning another bloke got me all self-conscious and thinking 'omg, I hope the people on the BB don't think I am getting off with a computer programmer!'
Maybe I should make him think I have stack loads of people wanting to bed me, LOL. He was definitely disconcerted by me mentioning a 'him'.
He is not coming round more frequently, no, although the last 2 ocassions out of 3 he did stay for a bit when there was no obvious reason to and to get an email from him that isn't about the kids is very RARE.
He HATES writing and even when we were married, he wouldn't string 2 sentances together. I remember once he went away to France for 2 weeks on a work assignment and didn't even send me a postcard, and that was when we were happily in love. He phoned me a few times to chat, but he wouldn't write.
He wrote love letters when we were dating but as soon as he 'had' me, he stopped writing. So to get a spontaneous email, just chatting, is a very big deal in my sitch.
ATM I am not going to encourage him to visit or stay for longer. If he wants to he wants to, but I'm not desperate. I can go without.
If he chooses to spend any time with me, I will be friendly, but it has to be his initiation as I'm not going to chase him. That would be degrading and unfeminine.
