I presumed it was physical touch as we are both extremely physical people and that is my LL too.
I have noticed that he does tend to up his AOS when he is trying to draw me back in, or when my level of interest in him declines. Then when he has me physically the AOS drops off a little.
So I don't know whether his LL is physical touch or AOS.
My reasons for being stand-offish are:
1. He has major control issues and him reconnecting may be part of that. I want a healthy R where he respects me, not one where he thinks I will always be there no matter what he does. I am trying to show him that I am in control of my own life.
2. He has no business sense and has already cost me literally hundreds of pounds in lost revenue. He is not dependable and will not work to deadlines, forgets things and basically doesn't come up with the goods very often and then I have to go into 'nag' mode to get him to do it so I have found it easier if I try to work all by myself - except I lack certain skills which I am having to learn at college.
That is why I told him no to the website originally.
3. When I connect in with him more and respond to him more, it is harder to maintain PMA as I am not so detached from my sitch.
4. When I am less available, he misses me and makes more effort and gives me more of what I want.
5. People always want what they can't have, so by not always being there etc, it creates more mystery. If I don't want him, he wants me more. Reverse psychology - works every time on him.
6. He has been saying he wants me, sleeping with me etc and then backing off, on and off for 3 years now so last time he got cold feet I cut out the sex and this time I am in the frame of mind where he would have to give me his absolute everything before I would be willing to be pulled back into an intimate R with him. In this sense, I am being careful.
Hope this answers your questions. My H is a complicated man but I know how he ticks. Talking about my work is 180 for him yes - esp. since work conflict was the main reason we split up in the first place.
