Sorry, I am not sufficiently familiar with your whole story and I apologize if I made too many assumptions about what you have been through. Please, ignore my comments, I don't know anything.
OG_Lou:
Thanks for the clarification. I am very interested in Jo's history and will go back and read her posts.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
Re my H and our SL. The main difference between mine and other cases is that when my H left, he never quit our SL. We continued a SL as if we were together.
It stopped for a few weeks here and there when we were in court and when I went to the states, and I had a year 'dark' where he had an OW, so I didn't sleep with him then (I in fact had several 1 night stands during that year).
Then I split him and OW up after he came to me, admitting he missed me etc. He said he loved my sex and 'no one else does it like you' (his words) and that every time he was with OW, he just pretended it was me.
Up until a month ago, we were having a proper relationship which included a very good SL. I mean it, the sex was amazing - best I've ever had in my life, tons better than in the M.
Even just being in the same room with him makes my heart beat faster, that is how good it is.
But then he backtracked again and because I've been allowing him to have an SL with me for 2 years out of these 3, I came to the conclusion that he took it for granted that I always would and therefore could treat me badly because he'd always get sex anyway.
Therefore I decided not to be physical at all until he commits properly.
This is difficult for me, as I am a physical person and I show love through sex, like men do, so I find this really lonely, but it's 180 for our R and to me I have to at least try it.
I am slightly worried about him going off with another woman just for sex, but likewise, he has 3 of our kids full time, he is broke financially - I know he doesn't have women stacking up to see him and hypothetically, if he DID have sex with someone, it would just be meaningless sex.
He has told me he loves me, a couple of months ago and he's already said that sex with me is amazing, etc so I am not MASSIVELY worried as, like he said, 'No one else does it like me'
He does still compliment me on my clothes and say I look nice etc and I am positive in response to him and I am always welcoming if he initiates a conversation, but I just don't want to give him everything I've got until I have a firm commitment to our R.
Jo
(who thinks he is as amazing as what he says about me, and I know from experience, no one else does it like him )
I got in from college this evening and found this thread on here called 'Jo is right' - that was great after a gruelling few hours in the 'office', LOL
I was sitting here eating a bowl of Greek salad that I made myself, getting all egoistical
Well, I did 3 hours word processing today. It surprises me how much I don't know. The guy next to me (about 80 years old) was also called Joe so that was a bit confusing as I kept startling when anyone said his name
I got in a half hour tea break as well and looked at some brochures.
Then I posted LOADS of work letters and handed in my photos to be developed, which will be ready on Tuesday.
I went to a shop and bought myself some face mask beauty treatment and some make up and nail polish (btw, folks, I don't normally wear make up as I think I look good without it, so this is different for me).
I thought I'd treat myself since all my family are away.
Quote: I got in from college this evening and found this thread on here called 'Jo is right' - that was great after a gruelling few hours in the 'office'
Yes I'll still help you do a book if you want. I am starting a law degree in February 06 and re doing my e-business so I don't have stacks of time, but I'm always up for writing projects.
Yes, I will be writing more books. Writing and selling books is what I do. The next one I intend to do is about natural childbirth and the dangers of childbirth medications and interventions.
I can still help you, though, as I usually work on more than 1 thing at once. It will take a long time though. I've been working on my book for 2 years now and only just near finished.
Ghost writing is when I write it for you, using your story and then it is printed in your name, not mine, but I take a percentage of the profits. Loads of people in the Royal Family have done this and other famous people.
Or you could write it yourself and then give me the chapters to read through so I can strengthen your scenes or add my suggestions for how you could improve it.
You first need a synopsis, which is a basic plotline of what your story is about and it helps you to write by giving you a direction to go in. It also helps publishers when they are considering whether to print your book. They usually ask for the synopsis first, to help them decide whether they are interested in the book.
I continually add to mine to help me 'build' the scenes in my book, which helps if I'm stuck with writer's block. Quite often I will go back into a scene after I've written it and add more, and my synopsis is valuable in enabling me to do this more easily.
Got your books! And the pic of Lucia - I teared up when I saw it among the publications. Thank you so much! She is very beautiful - takes after her mother! I have her up with S5's pics above my desk at work.
Your package created nice mystery for me - W asked (couldn't help herself) about this package from England with female handwriting on it. Nice trigger for very nice interaction with her. I'll post later. Thank you again. I'll write your email account.
