Quote: I have always maintained a good "marriage map" of her (Gottman)
Gottman has some good relationship books. I read one Gottman book and saw how lacking both of are in R skills. Then again there were somany R skills listed. Maybe you don't have to be perfect at R skills to get along.
UD, if you go back and read Jo's posts from the beginning of this year, you will see she did maintain the sexual connection and Andy even said he loved her. His over control of the kids lives stopped the SL they had. It was a "I love you but I will do what / when I want" type of thing. When you give part of yourself, you need something back to go on with that giving. Anyway, read her older post by clicking on her name at the left,then go down to the bottom right of her profile and click on "post by" that will show posts Jo wrote. at the bottom of that page click the back or next page of posts. There are a lot, and they are a good read.
