On 7/7/05 I got feeling so up-tight that I had to tell BB and say the root of the problem was going without sex for 6 weeks. BB has an air about her that shows she has no interest in sex but said if I was feeling that needy I should have done it with her weeks ago. The last time she indicated sex was a possability she did not want to do anything different and if she would have gotten a UTI, it would have been my fault.
This time she and/or I convinced her the shower for both of us had to happen before sex. I also took my blood pressure before and after sex. It dropped 9 points after a little nookie so sex is good for me.
The encounter was no way near ML because BB wannted to do it quickly as suggested in one book,and she was tight eventhough we used lots of lube. I decided to do it BB ways, quick, and wished it had lasted much longer. We did spend a few minuets in bed cuddling and kissing, then got up and rinsed off and BB did pee some.
The main point of th details is not to report on the sex but to say 24/48 hours later BB did not have a UTI. So next time we will do the wash and hopefully can spend more time doing it (the longer time you have IC, the more likely a UTI might happen) and the results will still be the same=No UTI. I am trying to make it safe for BB to have IC with me and will be adding to the time and positions we use (missionary).
7/8/05 BB asked me to set up the coffee pot and I forgot. 7/9/05 AM I got a sarcastic remark from BB for forgetting to set up the coffee pot for AM coffee. I said I would do it but BB did it and was sarcastic, so I made myself a cup of tea and said if she was going to be a martyr over the coffe making I could do without the coffee just like I do without orange juice, another rant she was on for several months many years ago.
I made ham and egg English muffins and tried to act like the coffee set up was not that unsettling. I was acting as if things were going to improve. I kept drinking my tea, and later did have a cup of coffee.
To put the coffee pot set up in context, About 2 years ago I forgot to do the night before set-up and in the AM BB came screaming to me saying "you SOB" for not taking care of the coffe pot the night before. I don't treat her that way and I won't take it from her.
BTW, the set up is to put 8 cups of water and 2 scoops of coffee in the coffee maker. I think it takes less than 35 seconds to do. BB wants it done the nght before, not in the morning. It is one of her things I try to do to keep her happy.
I wonder why some simple things evoke so much emotional tension.
BB was visiting with a friend and she was telling her friend to keep her money seperate from her H's money/checking account, which is OK with me but it also rubs me the wrong way when the phrase, "Never let a man tell you what you can or can not spend your own money on", comes up often along with "men are controlling pigs" type of statements. So I asked her if she knows of any men that treat their wife decent. No answer.
BB called me from her cell phonr to flirt on 7/7/05. Were were both in the house but on different floors. What I have a difficult time with is the flirting one day and "men are controlling pigs" the next day. I see lots of other posts here that are similar so I guess it is like so many people say, the dance is 1 step foward, one step back.
More old printers to the dumpster. New tires on BB's car (they expired according to the news,7 years old) one of the old ones was bad and the other 3 were OK but they are one less thing to fight about. BB wanted new tires last week but it took me longer to find the ones I thought were right for her 3K miles a year driving. All of her tire rot out and I am not about to buy 60,000 mile tires to have the sidewalls sun rot at 20,000 miles.
I have lots of work to do around the house. Did I mention it is 99 degrees. Cool drinks, shade when I can, and sit in front of the fan while posting.
