Quote: or is she just going to keep on complaining and insulting you for the rest of your lives?
Complaining is her #1 mode since the honeymoon was over. She tried to discipline the kids with threats of grounding them till they were 21. She would go on and on occasionally but not back much up with loss of privileges etc.
Quote: When your W started putting you down by calling you a slob, you probably weren't expecting to have to address that issue right then or maybe even ever again
Exactly JJ. In fact "I" was trying to be extra friendly and said let's go to Arbys for dinner because I know she does not like to cook and she was home all day.
On the way out the door, she say the stuff in my work van was trash and started at the put downs again. I just got to the point where I was tired of giving reasons for what I did. I went into the "yes you are right" line of thinking and if you think this is bad, wait until I do more of what you accuse me of doing.
At that moment, if BB would have complained that I wanted sex 3 times a day (which she does sometimes but it happens 1x amonth) I would have said "we are starting the 3 x a day schedule just as soon as we get home and since it is already 6PM I guess that means we have to do it 3 times from 7PM to 10PM.(her bed time)
Sorry I sound like I can't control my mouth. I never said the above, but I have thought it many times. I guess one element of the problem is BB's definition of what she sees as our history compared to what I remember.
Examples of her history include forgetting the wallet often, when I initiate or did not iniate sex, how I was the LDH and she was the HDW, how she beg me come to bed sometimes.
I say I forgot my wallet a couple of times, when I initated sex she was tired, how her accusitory actions of me not likeing her because her boobs were not big enough, how she was horney at 8PM then a "too tired" at bed time, when I did get to bed I was rejected, (BB, If I have to ask for sex, I don't want to have sex / "if I have to talk about I dont want it, you should know without me asking" thing women seem to talk about). Welcome to being married I guess.
Other mistakes Also include the "don't buy me anything for Valentines day" Yea right, I would rather get kicked in the nads. (MTV's Beavis and Buthead)
