What to do when you know you are right and worng at the same time.
Quote: (LG said) why are you staying married? I have been pushed to answer this for myself, but I really can't, ergo the "abused/addicted" thread. (I asked)LostGal, could you leave your H, animals, and house. I would hav trouble breaking up the things I have right now. I suppose my situation / problems are simmilar to yours.
I see the returning to the abusive or neglected theme to your post but want to ask you something else, but related.
LG, your C advises leaving your M, yet you stay like a true DB'er. I was seeing the logic of "it's less work and more productive to repair a M than to D."
What is the mininum improvement you can live with in your M? Do you have some goals or standards that have to be met by a certain date.
I ask the question, especially about the animals ( you said you had several) because of what I have read recently about some people's relationship with pets. If BB had to choose between me and her dogs, I might lose. She has said her dogs give her more joy than anything else. Then again, maybe I am borrowing trouble. I am just sort of taking a poll. Do you stay because of your animals?
My position on pets and people is, people come first. If pets have to go, they only go when they get good homes. I am not the only person to give a pet a good home. I know there are lots of other wouderful pet owners in the world.
Another reason I ask is, I read here on the bb other guys feel less improthat than the kids and some pets.
Right now I don't see how to influence someone to think or do the things I feel would lead to a proper relationship. Goood roommates, yes. Really married, no. I am guessing you have simmilar problems/concerns? Maybe not!
