SherryL - Thanks for the advice. Will try to do that..but it is kinda hard as my H is acting like someone who has lost his marbles. One minute, he'll say he wants to be a monk, and wonders if he can bring a partner (OW???) with him. The next, he will says things like "You and OW are in trouble. I just had a few drinks, and I am looking at every single woman that walked past!". So, you see, it is kinda difficult to act "as-if" the OW does not exist. He brings it up all the time. For the last two days, I 've been brushing him off with "Do whatever you want. I don't want to know". I know that is a NO-NO. But I feel that if I don't do that, I am the one gonna lose my marbles.
I am so numb already, I really don't want to listen to his nonsense. About his day - fine. But about his floosy...no can do. And he wonders "why are you sooo upset?". I am like "Hello? If you want to talk about her, can you please find a friend to talk to? I really don't want to hear about it. I am not your friend. I am your wife!". I know I know..another DBing-NO-NO. But that a@@hole H of mine is getting on my nerves when he does that. But this morning, he seems to have gotten a little bit of his marbles back. Talking more sensibly...about his job, his co-worker, and him finding an alternative job....
I think I will have to mesh normal DBing principles with some of my own "sanity-preserving" principles!
Thanks again SherryL for the tips..I'll really really try to adhere to them...
