Hi SP, sorry to hear that your evening didnt go well. I can remember so many similar instances with my H....We really had some rows about the same issues. I remember him being livid with me for checking his work schedule on the computer... I did check it, and he was sneaking off with monster....boy, did I ever hear every ugly accusation in the book of what an interfering, overbearing bitch I was and how that was one of the reasons he loved monster so much and ladedahdedadeda. Sound familiar???? they all do the same carefully correographed (sp) dance, I've come to understand. Then he'd get angry and say "you can just check my schedule"....I learned not to respond other than to say "not interested" and drop it completely after those 2 words.
I think you're doing absolutely the best thing in backing off....I'd suggest maybe not saying one more word about the incident, you've apologized, it's done and over and can't be changed, let it go so he can start to do the same. AND don't beat yourself up over it, lord, it's not like we don't have REASONS to be sensitive to this stuff, and we are after all only human.
Quote: I did say that I was sorry and that how many times do I have to pay for 1 mistake this am as he left and said the stuff about me answering his cell
I'd suggest being careful to avoid things like the "how many times do I have to pay" comment. I know I've said pretty much the same, and my underlying intent was to point out to him how irrational he was being. But, believe me, to their mlc brains, there is no such thing as irrational on their part, and those kinds of comments only give them fuel to conjure up more weird rationalizations.
What if you just leave the phone untouched where he left it, and let it show missed calls?????
It's good you've got plans for the weekend. take care of yourself, and try to focus on being pleasant and cheerful in interactions, and then let the "crap" he spews out roll off you back. Lord, I hope that doesnt sound preachy, heaven knows how much I've struggled with this stuff. but, my experience is it blows over faster if I can let go of it and get on with life in a pleasant manner.
Gotta run, take care, I'll check back on you on Monday.
