Hi Sp, I just now got here, sorry to be so slow. I have to say, I've done the same thing SOOOOOO many times...getting upset and asking about things and then wishing to heck I hadn't....and having H be angry at me. Heaven's, I remember a time when a phone call from "upromise" was left on the caller id, and I went after him about getting text messages from monster. I was so traumatized and overly sensitive at the time, I couldnt help it, but I can sure see now how nuts it had to make him. My experience has been that a couple of different things have "worked" at different times, kinda hard to tell sometimes which is best...but what I've done is 1)apologized for going off the "deep end" and then DROP IT (I have to work to not keep apologizing adnauseum, but it's like other things, if you've said it once & he's not deaf, he's heard you); and 2) not bring it up at all unless he does, and then if he does, apologize and validate and then drop it (something like "I'm sorry to be so easily stirred up, I know it must be frustrating for you"). These have worked with my H. Sometimes I've been able to turn it around into a joke, but that is a lot "iffier", and harder to predict.
And you're right, ACT AS IF. Hope this helps, I'm not sure....
I know you were here before, did we post to each other "back then"? I havent figured you out. Can't believe I'm such an old-timer here by now.
