Hi Slowly - Thanks for stopping by Things have been very busy at my work so I haven't been posting much lately. I'll have to catch up with your thread and see what you and NG have been up to

Hi Fran - Thanks for stopping by Do you have a current thread so I could catch up on your sitch? Yes, your H sounds similar to mine. I'm glad you are going to give your M/R another shot. This BB is so helpful and especially reading about the other posters progress and how they handle their situations is so helpful!

So, here is my brief update. As noted above, work is entering busy season here so I will have less time to post but will try to read up on other's threads.

Well, now my H has added another kink to our progress. He wants to move back to his hometown. He hates his job here and says the only reason he stays is because of me (can you feel the resentment???). I don't know what the solution to this additional problem is. I do not want to live in his hometown. It's a different climate and culture and it is far away from my friends and family. In my Hs line of work he will always work nights, weekends, and holidays and where we are now I can drive a couple of hours to see my family and friends. I tried suggesting once he gets his work schedule fixed (which he still has not set up the meeting with his bosses) that we could plan more trips to see his family. It is drivable so it's not like we would have to fly a lot. I'm feeling discouraged and not sure what to do next.

Ideas, anyone????

Take Care,
SP

According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."