The title of your post caught my eye because I too used to post a couple of years ago, and I too feel like we have definitely come back off the rails.
I have two kids but apart from that our sitches are similar your H sounds a lot like mine, workaholic, guilt-driven, likes WOAs, likes to do AOS, drinks too much.
Some things that used to work. WOAs in form of texts as well as verbal Gifts - if your H likes to win stuff maybe gifts are like a more concrete form of WOA
I am glad things are gradually climbing up again for you. I guess we did get a bit too comfortable and backslid. Your posts have given me inspiration to have another go at it. I was just starting to think - well I did my best but it didn't work.
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
