Hi Rottzilla, Sage, and Slowly - Thank you all for your posts and encouragement not to snoop. I think I am out of that funk now. It's funny how one incident (H running into FF at workplace) can trigger BAD behaviour!

Hi Sage - Thanks for your analysis of my sitch I read the post before leaving from work on Friday for the weekend and it really set my mind/mood/head straight. I feel back on track and had a good weekend with H. We spent the whole weekend together, , went to a movie and lunch. I feel like my QT was fulfilled as well as Hs. I did lag behind on AOS but figured I could give that a tiny break and enjoy the QT instead

Thanks for the examples of WOA you listed, Sage. This will help a great deal. I definitely have the Thank You part down and now I can work on the because aspect.

H didn't want to talk about his job this weekend. I will try to offer non-controlling assistance when he asks for it. It will be hard but I know I can do it (Act As If). I like the examples you gave me to help me to help my H in his work dilema. I will be thinking about other questions along this line to help me help him (when asked )

Well, I better get back to work now. Hope your home repairs went smoothly and you & H got to spend some QT together over the weekend.

Take Care,
SP

According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."