Former poster - Thought M was back on track

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I am trying to snap out a mood and thought if I post some positives to this lastest sitch it would help to calm me down:

1) H will feel like he is contributing to his sister/her family even thou we only see them a couple of times a year.
2) This giving will make H feel good
3) This is a chance for me not to freak out about him wanting to give his relatives money. They don't have much of it and he has helped them out before but not to this large extent.
4) Giving is good; good karma will flow

I just feel like my H constantly draws needy people to him whether it be work always asking for more to his family wanting something from him. One time he gave his other sister $300 cash and didn't tell me about it so I have to be calm in my reactions to this latest sitch. Her schooling will be for 2 years and this could be huge amts. of $$$.

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