Hi Sikan - Thanks for your input and agreement of not wasting my time with FF. I think that is great that you are addressing your issue with your C and her idea sounds really good. I believe there was a thought stopping thread in Newcomers at the top that might also have some good info.

I now have another annoyance that has popped up. H's sister wants to borrow a big chunk of money and I know he won't say no. She is divorced with 3 kids and is trying to go back to school. Anyway, she says she will pay him back when the loan money comes thru but I KNOW for a FACT that she won't and this could become an endless money drain. What do I do? He makes most of the money. My salary is tiny so how can I say anything? Oh, and of course she only contacts him when she wants $$$.

I better DO my yoga tonight before all these stressors cause me to go nuts

According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."