Hi Slowly - Thanks for popping over to my thread .

You asked:
Is flexi-time an option where you work, so that you can sometimes play hooky and catch up at nite when he is at work anyway? These 'naughty' episodes are quite important in creating a sense of excitement.

Well, I wish it was as easy as that but his job has a different schedule from week to week and unfortunately, even if he switches jobs it will be like that as that is how his field works It definitely has caused problems for us. So, some weeks he has a couple of days and some nights or other weeks all nights and weekends. Not conducive to M building but I am trying to work with it. Pre-bomb I was always complaining and that obviously is something that doesn't work. I wouldn't be able to ask my job to change week to week. I know I have passed up in order to get into work on time...

According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."