Well, things are going well with H right now. This morning he admitted that he hated his job (he's been there 6+ years and I think this contributed to his mlc, his past possible EA, his drinking, etc.). How do I go about helping him find a new job without becoming too controlling? In the past if I would say anything about the job being a factor in our problems he would get mad and say I was being negative. Is there a way I can assist him but not be seen as overbearing? He also said that he never sees me with this job (opposite schedules) and he is sick of it.

On another M/V question, I saw on the counter a piece of paper with a female co-worker's home and cell number. How do I question him about this w/o sounding accusing? It was not hidden and I have heard him mention this person.

We this am and are definitely on an upward swing so I don't want to come off as suspicious about the name and number but I also don't want to not bring it up.

Thanks for your feedback

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