Hi everyone - I am a former poster from about 2 years ago. Thought my M was pieced but now I am not so sure. I changed my name because I was afraid H/someone would figure it out.
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago got the "bombs" again. The only tangible I have as to why this may have occurred is that H found an old sticky from the early db days and misinterpreted it. I had no idea I still had it. Now, he has retreated. Sleeps on couch a lot and edge of our bed. Not as interested in ML. Not e-mailing me. Rarely calling me. No mention of future again and gets defensive when I ask questions.
Anyway, how do you start over with dbing after 2 years and feeling as if you somewhat succeeded and then when you felt safe and almost on solid ground...bomb drops again?
I have been reading the board and trying to db and not fall into old habits but I guess maybe I got too comfortable?
Background:
Me - 36 H - 34 no kids M - 8 years 1st bomb Mar/April '03 H never moved out but I suspected an EA but never confirmed. He denied many times. "Just Friends" H seemed to have been going thru an MLC and has a drinking problem which is usually when bombs are dropped.
Thanks for reading this and I hope someone can help me
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