NOP, I could confront her and give her some references, but she will deny the situation and become angry. Having had time to reflect and consider my situation, I can see that she is not really interested in working on things. She is not interested in my self help books or really anything other than just "seeing what happens." I know fully well what is going to happen with this stance-nothing. Her love bank for me is empty and mine is very close to that. Not being negative, just realistic.
She is friendly when we talk and cordial. But as soon as any kind of R discussion, suggestion or anything comes up, her defenses do too. Makes it hard to work on things when it is just me, but I am going to try. I can offer the books and see, but they will just collect dust. That's ok, I am still going to try.
I like your response to her comment and wish I could be as quick witted. I will definitely keep that in mind for next time.
IHJ, Thanks for your support too. My goals are going to be to try and stay positive and happy for W and kids. Have more books to read. I am considering a phone consultation. That's all I have planned for right now.
