CFI... Good for you for not reacting to W after she threw out that comment...in PM terms, that's called " holding onto yourself"...you don't become flustered or anxious, you stay calm. NOP and the others here can help you with productive responses...bascially, you call her on the crap, and stay firm and resolved in what you want. Sometimes the responses are just too hard to do...if you can HOY, you are ahead of the game. None of this is easy and you will make plenty of mistakes as she tests you. In the process, you will learn a lot about communication...how to assert what you want, and how to boundary the bad stuff. I still work at this but I have gotten a lot better, and for the most part my H has turned around, from feeling he could walk all over me to respecting me and working with me, not against.
Now that you have some space, it's a good idea to think of a few goals that you would like to accomplish and write them here.
