All, I left for my trip yesterday. As I was leaving, I said, do you want me to call. She replies-"I'm sure the kids will want to talk to you..." I didn't reply but--- you know what--- that was just a crappy thing to say. Anyway, I smiled and left.
NOPkins, I understand what you say about need and want. What I really meant to convey to her was that I want her.
Also, on my flight, I read Surviving an Affair. This was very helpful to me. Yes, in my mind, I will always believe that she had an affair, even if it was emotional. She of course will not admit that. I think her love bank for me is empty, and mine is dangerously in the red for her. It would be a good read for her because of the advice given as to how to rebuild the R. However that I feel would be pressure at this point as well. She is an educated adult and I don't think I need to tell her what to do. I am going to give her space this week, and when I get home, will keep my positive approach going, but nothing more.
If she wants to read, she can find resources just like I did. By the end of the summer, I will reassess with her...
