You're a fast learner, DFI....you did great! Good timing too...getting things on track before you go away. The break will be good for you both...as you have said, you do not want to smother her or go overboard, and it will give her a chance to miss you. Also...this is more for when you come back...brace yourself for a rollercoaster ride...you will be tested again and again, and it will be difficult to keep the non-defeatist attitude in the face of her negativity.
Two suggestions...be pro-active and arrange for therapy ( whether by phone or in person) with a MARRIAGE counselor. Also, pick up the book Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch.
