Green I am sorry you have found out he was going to that site. I know how you must feel. It does hurt to know our LD husbands would go to a site like that when they have such low drives. Unless it is just me but it hurts and confuses me.

If you remember that is the exact site my husband was going to. I called him on it and he tried to make excuses also. But he knows I am a computer savy so also backed down from original story of just a pop up. A few things I know is that site is real. People can e-mail you that are local. I had to find out so one day I registered at the site. I only registered to see for myself if it was real. Because I am surely not looking and would never look on line. I didn't even pay for a membership let me mention. Well, within one day I had several e-mails from men. One of them li\sted a phone number. Skeptical yet again that maybe it could be just a porn site or something similar I called the phone number from a pay phone as to be anonymous. And just asked are you so and so who e-mailed me on adultfriend. And he was like yes do you want to hook up. I hung up instantly. I told my husband about everything I did to prove a point that this site was real and totally not proper or moral for a married man to be going to.

So that site is real. Maybe you could find out if he registered and created a screen name. It would be in his e-mail if he did because they give you a password.

You mean he hasn't tried to intiate sex at all even considering how unhappy and hurt you have been?