I don't know for sure that he did anything other than take those pictures of himself. Those may have involved no one other than himself...I guess to clarify that situation I should say....at the time I found those he was still maintaining he never thought about sex at all....those pictures proved that untrue as he was as aroused as a many physically could be.
However, I do think you are definitely on to something on the rest of your post. I really do think he's receiving exactly what he needs by my pursuing him....but now that I'm telling him to step up or he'll eventually lose me he's being forced to have to deal with what probably is a very awkward side of him. I guess for me, at this point, he has to figure out if it's worth dealing with that awkward side or not....I can't do that for him, and I can't make him do it...he will have to make the choice to do this himself.
I'm hoping he chooses to finally face it and reap the rewards....I've promised to make it worthwhile for him
