GEL... Do you feel that your H has a strong need to feel desired? I know my H had a tendency to pick strong women who were very into him, but then dumped him when he became ambivalent about them. Not that he had a lot of experience, mind you...I was his third girlfriend. But his method of seduction was to draw them ( and me) in through an alluring friendship, never really putting himself out there. He'd get confused and lost and they were outta there. I guess with me he got to a point where he didn't want to lose another gf...also, I can be compellingly pushy,lol. Initially, I felt safe with him because I felt I was in control, but over time, my sexuality changed to wanting to feel more of a " manly" presence in my life.
I think my H never put himself out there because it would take away from his fantasy of really being desired and also he would have to face up to the reality of his awkwardness. I wonder if your H really did anything real with those pictures. My h also defends himself from being selfishly aggressive. Too bad, lol. It was a huge wake up call to me and to him that I had all these needs that were not being met.
