Wow - that was a whopper! Good for you for hanging in there.
I never heard about the photo thing before. What did your H say about those photos? It sort of touches on something I struggle with about my H. One time I ran across a poem written to him by an ex gf - it was called "the gentlest tongue" and was all about the ecstasy of kissing him. The funny thing is that I'm not sure if that poem was a reflection of the R or was her trying to elicit desire from him. I have done similar stuff to try to get him going. H often avoids deep kissing. However, I am left wondering if there is something about me specifically that H is afraid to share that raw sexuality with? Back to your H's photo - do you think it is a reflection of a more sexual prior R or is it more something H did because he knew he was "supposed" to do sexy/masculine stuff. Or was he experimenting with that side of himself at that time? Musings...
