I suspect that MrsBube is in the same boat. I've mentioned before that she often tells me that she's not a good wife. If I ask her why she thinks that, I always get some non-specific answer like, "I'm just not." I suspect that it's her awareness of our (lack of) SL that's making her feel that way, but she would never say that. It might mean facing it, talking about it, and doing something about it.
