If I were to make an educated guess I'd say he's more scientific in approach. He is an airline mechanic by profession, so it would be fairly reasonable to conclude that for him A-B=C, especially since he almost never lets his emotions out.
I was very pleasantly surprised at how our H handled the sitch. I was obviously very upset, I rarely cry...but was a bit. Here's something I forgot to mention earlier, but found quite interesting/frustrating too...when I finally finished saying what I needed to say, I apologized for "blind-siding" my H...because I kind of felt like I had just done that. Our C asked him if he felt lambasted or blind-sided...he said "no, he kind of expected it." I remember thinking things like that myself back when I was LD...I knew deep down inside I wasn't doing what I needed to for my H way back when....I constantly expected to have him say something to me about it too. I have NO doubt my H feels the same way....as do many LD spouses. He knows he's not meeting my needs....therefore he's not at all suprised when I do say something, he's expecting it.
