Quote: Of course....I've also thought that he may be thinking...."if I do something like this...maybe she'll stop asking", but my gut says it's not that.
I understand your desire to look on the positive side but I think the truth is somewhere in the middle. I don't think it was just an innocent sexual flub or a diabolical planned attempt to make you LD in the future. It was just plain old selfish withholding behavior and you have to call him on it. I think for some reason (poor potty training?) LD men feel like women are trying to suck the life force out of them through sex rather than offer them something of value. They mistake our penis lust for penis envy and this makes them afraid that we are out to steal their penises because low self-esteem makes them feel like their penises are poorly attached and therefore able to be stolen. Sexual activity that is purely penis-centric, in which the LD man concentrates on his pleasure only, allows him to maintain a firm sense of penis-attachment.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
