It really was kind of funny in the C's office...when I told her and my H that I had edited my question to him ("aren't you excited for me?") several times before I actually let that one out. My H looked kind of surprised at me....so I told him "you have no idea how many times I edit something in my head before I actually say something to you. I think the question out in my head and try to guage how it might actually come across to you....I didn't want you to feel attacked by saying something like....I'm finally getting what I've worked so hard for at work and you could care less, what's up with that?!" I explained there were at least 4-different versions of what I wanted to say to him that ran through my head before I let loose "aren't you excited for me?"...and a few of them contained explatives LOL. I did this because I was giving him the benefit of the doubt that he didn't intend for his response to be so disappointing.
I guess he thinks (and it would be easy to think this) that I just say whatever is on my mind...I rarely ever do that. I'm a very deliberate person when I speak, I've usually thought out exactly what I want to say...edited it in my head to make sure I'm clear...and then speak. So, sometimes that means I don't speak up for a little while, although I am getting much better about not holding onto things until I can't stand it or they fester. However, when it comes to my sense of humor that's usually very quick and comes out off the top of my head....so it would be easy for him to think that I do the same thing with other topics too.
I have to admit though the look on his face when I told him some of the other things that ran through my head before I said what I finally did to him....was hilarious!
