First, no he didn't say WTF, I was thinking that when I received his lackluster response to my promotion.
2nd, He makes far more money than I do....it would take quite a bit for me to be able to swing the income pendulum toward me.
3rd...his shift changes aren't an income choice. It's simply part of what he does...everyone has to do it where he works. Everyone has to go 4-weeks days, 4-weeks afternoon (or what I call nights) where he works...it's not that he's working extra shifts, or getting paid extra for working that shift when he has to. However, what you said could apply if my promotion would mean a great deal of money that would swing the pendulum in my direction....his xw made a 6-figure salary, hid her money from him, and expected him to pay all the bills on top of that with his salary....so it's always possible some of those feelings creep in and affect his responses to me.
As far as me having to travel overnight, yes occasionally(a couple times a year at the most) I will have to travel, but I have told him at those times...to make caring for our S easier...I'll be happy to contact one of our moms to come help us out; either would be happy to do so....and he gets along great with both ladies. I've also told him of specific places that I will probably be sent....Orlando, FL, Wales UK, & Singapore....so that if he wanted to he could accompany me and take a bit of a vacation (that perked him up a bit.)
As far as his lackluster response...I found out today that it wasn't that he wasn't happy for me, it was more that he didn't trust that what I had been told would actually happen. He doesn't trust "management" at all. He knows I've been told time and time again that things would change, but nothing ever happens....so this time, no matter what I said he assumed it was the same thing again.
FYI...since I posted my previous response he has called me to tell me how proud he is of me. He's trying to figure out exactly why he withholds praise about certain things from me....right now he's not sure. For now I'm going to have to accept that answer, but he did tell me it bothers him that he did that....which to be honest, just that simple disclosure makes me feel better.
