I'm so happy to hear about your H progress in creating a romantic and intimate bath for you two to share. I'm sure that made you feel like all the effort you have been putting into your R for a long time now is worth it.
I am also saddened to hear your H response to your career advancement. Did he actually say "WTF" when you told him? That is just rude.
I had a similar lackluster response from my W 10 years ago when I landed my current job. It moved me up from working for small companies to a major global corp. The pay was much better than what I was used to as well. And the opportunities for advancement within the corp. seemed greater by far. I felt like I finally arrived at my career that would take me all the way to retirement. W response was "oh, that's nice, now let's get on with”… yada, yada, yada. I tried to plan a celebratory dinner, steaks on the grill etc. She could not fit it into her schedule. And she was not that busy at the time.
So let me ask you, GEL, does your H seem threatened by your advancement? Like does he fear that you will outpace him in the workplace? Does he fear that your additional income will diminish his control of your joint finances? Will the new position require you to travel overnight?
On the positive spin, will the career advancement eliminate the need to work those 2nd shift hours? Maybe H could get excited about that, if it is in fact the case.
Any idea why he finds it easier to talk you up everywhere except to your face?
Closing on a positive note, both the romantic interlude with H in the bathtub and feeling so good about H’s comment about your son are great progress. So is his recognizing your dieting efforts in the T office. If you can’t figure out why his response to your career move was so flat, let it go. Instead focus on his romantic progress and the progress you are making with your diet. Keep in mind that just like people in R have slipups, dieters do too. If you have a slipup, get right back on the diet train. You can turn that 2 lb. slipup into a 4 lb. weight loss in no time and amaze yourself with self fulfillment.
