My thoughts: If my ex-W (the 1st one...the one I have children with) sent me a note like that I would be very appreciative. It's nice to know what they are up to. So yes, I think the note is good.
Remember you are a sweet, friendly person. Is that how you want to close? How do you close the e-mail with your friends? I'd try a "have a nice day." or "have a nice week" or something. Just something that is courteous and nice.
And yes, I think you should send the e-mail and see how it goes over. Tell him you got the money. How come you feel the need to retaliate? You're better than him remember. In fact, you are too good for him.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Usually w/friends emails I just say 'take care' or 'talk soon'. With the ex (even b4 he was 'ex') it was just our initials at the end. and if i am in the pursuing mode, I sign it love you, or luv u or miss u. hmm. I will ponder that.
I have thought about just mentioning the money as an afterthought. "P.S. Money is in the bank, will try to put some aside so for s's bday. Do you have any ideas?"
I am thinking of getting son a bike this year, he outgrew his last one and it is still at dad's. So I thought about saying we could shop together when you make the visit, but don't want to keep bringing that up. or should I?
The need to retaliate is just from the anger I have over the div. Ex tries to blame me for it all being my fault, but that is his guilt trip and I need to not feed into that anymore. Yes, I am better than that, just have this urge to remind him lately!
I sent my email off to ex b4 class today. I did add in about the money and asked for ideas on s's bday present. I'm hoping that will be a small step w/ex. He would always hand over the money and say go do the shopping and then would complain about what I bought. Now I will start involving him in it.
To end it, I signed the email w/an acronym that he may or may not understand. "we had fun this weekend, hope you did too. l/m u!" (love/miss you!) I know, cheesy sort of pursuit, but I just couldn't help it! And I am thinking that the next time he calls, I may just answer and be that cheesy, head-in-the-clouds person like when we first met.
Oh, the kids at school just loved me for bringing in some home made cookies. Snack time is at the end of the day too, so it was fun sending them home all loaded up on sugar! Actually since tomorrow is the last day of school, they are wound up tight anyways. Now, I have enjoyed myself so much the past couple of months, I want to go back again in the fall, but I also need to find some income for the summer. Just don't know how or what yet.
yyaaaayy! Ex actually emailed me back in the same day! wow! I not only got a reply, but it was a pretty good one too!
....hello thanks for sending mail back. I dont know what to get 's'. i will think about it. Hug 's' and tell him i love him 'ex' .....
ok, it isn't much to get excited about, but it's a step in the right direction .. I think! maybe he was being a little sarcastic about answering the email, but he did answer right away. well, I'll just wait and c what he does next.
The L/M u part may have been a little over the top, but oh well. The response certainly doesn't seem negative. I agree...see what comes of it. I think that it's great you asked his opinion. Men like it when you ask for their thoughts...especially since it's about a son and Dads always know the cooler presents.
Give things a day or two and see if there are any small positive signs. Do you have some small goals so you can recognize these signs should they appear?
Well hopefully he will actually get back to you on the b-day ideas. Think of it as a chance to prop him up..."great idea" whatever.
I know what it is like to be screwed over in the divorce settlement. It's not fun being stuck with a bunch of debt. Keep you chin up. Good luck with your pursuits ( pun intended )
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
