GGB wrote:
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Alone time? Whats that? Seriously, it is only about 2 hours a week or so. She fills up her evening time with stuff she couldn't do during the day because of the babies. I'd like it to be much more, but if I push it I am either 'hovering' or keeping her from getting her things done.
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I don't know how you can do it, but I will tell you that you simply must arrange to spend more time with your wife. That time is the salve that soothes wounds, and allows you to reconnect with your wife.

I have seen all kinds of recommendations from different people. None of them would agree that 2 hours a week is even a start. Most seem to start around 7 hours a week. Willard Harley says 15 hours a week, and I am not sure what Michele says, but I bet it is more than 2 hours.

Any marital relationship is going to eventually have foundational problems when little time is invested in basic maintenance.

It is something that you might want to give serious consideration, and discuss with your wife.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.