Geek, To be fair, I was where you are a year ago, perhaps even worse, as the 20-30 day interval was often satisfied with just a handjob, then it would be another 20-30 days before any contact. With that in mind, we've made significant and considerable progress this year. The first step out of that rut came as a direct result of attending (and putting my all into) a WWME weekend. I encourage you to attend a weekend if at all possible. All you have to lose is a weekend worth of your time. They don't charge for it, although they tell you at the end what it costs per couple and ask you to make a donation commeasurate with your ability to donate and what you got out of the weekend. I'm still convinced deep communication is the key to getting out of this. I also know how hard that communication can be.
