Well... there is so much here I can agree with and so much I can't...
1. my wife also feels that sex should "just happen" and not be scheduled / tracked / or expected
2. my wife feels that I am extremely demanding when it comes to sex and that she will NEVER be able to satisfy my needs.
3. my wife does not want to talk about sex (she calls it verbal foreplay). we are either having sex or we are not...there is no need or time for anything inbetween.
So, I thought we are in the exact same position as I read your post. The difference is that I too would like to have sex 2x a week or more.
We have sex ONCE every 20-30 days when my wife decides she is willing. Not one day sooner. There are no handjobs, no BJs offered. It is vanilla sex on her comfort level and her time schedule.
