This is EXACTLY where my convos with my W go -- EVERY TIME. What is the best way to respond to this?
I usually say something like "I'm VERY happy with our M, in many areas, but this is the one area I'm not satisfied," and I'll usually point out one of MY flaws (or at least, in her eyes) where I let HER down, just so I'm not coming across as holier-than-thou. But INEVITABLY, when I try to bring it up, she'll turn it into "Sometimes I wonder if I can ever make you happy," or some such martyrdom statement that then makes it about HER and not about ME.
