Well, we discussed schedule over lunch. Can you say lead balloon. Sure, I knew you could. In the course of the discussion I said something along the lines of it going 4,6,8 days or more between. She cut me off and said it hadn't been 4 days since last time. I pointed out that the last time was in fact 4 days ago, and it was just a quick bj, I didn't get to get her going at all, and we didn't have time to establish a connection. Well she got defensive with she hasn't been feeling well (we've all got colds), yada yada yada. I could have gotten the NFP charts where I've been marking coitus (per the instructions) to show her that we've averaged once every 8 days since we started up after the baby, but I didn't go there...I fear that would have been the end of the charting. Anyway, she pretty much said no, she's not putting her passion on a calendar, that it should be when we both feel the passion. *SIGH*. It isn't just the LM, it is any intimate talk (both sexual and non-sexual). And we talked a little about that too....she feels like she "isn't doing it right".
I think maybe I'll try again this evening but emphasize it as a schedule for us to spend time together not doing any projects, no email, no TV etc in the evening, maybe from 10 oclock on or something like that. Nothing specific about how we spend that time, just a way to pull the plug on the diversions. Whadaya guys think?
