I understand your concerns, but your wife will eventually have to face what she has done, no matter the outcome.
If she stays with you, everyone is going to know what she did. If she runs off with squirrel (highly unlikely) everyone is going to know what she did. So, everyone is going to know what she did. That's the problem with making bad choices.
quote: ---------- Maybe I am off the mark here. They know enough to not blame me for all of our current probs, and that was enough for me. ----------
My major concern with what your parents know is simply having someone on your side, supporting you. You have been mostly by yourself through this. That makes it a lot tougher. Having additional people 'watching your back' can be a big help.
quote: ---------- If W felt like she had enemies in my family, she would see forgiveness as an even more difficult prospect. ----------
And this is why, in a previous post, that I wrote about conflict avoidance being the number one priority marital issue to be addressed in your recovery. Simply put, in my opinion, conflict avoidance in a marriage is akin playing russian roulette with a single shot bazooka.
You are doing well.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
