Has she re-written history in a way that prohibits you from measuring up, or have the things she wanted such as college paid for before kids were born, been her goals all along?
My guess is that it is re-written history. If not, it wasn't very practical to begin with. That doesn't mean that you dismiss her desires, but you do have to separate the doable from the not.
10 years ago, I had a 15 year old daughter that was already for college (sans the maturity), and I was 70 grand in debt on credit cards alone. I had just started a new technology business with a very high overhead, I had no money, a business that had just failed because a venture capitalist got nervous and pulled the plug, and no income.
I had stupidly put most of my money into the failed business since it was only a couple of months away from being profitable - or so I thought. It failed anyway.
I took a huge risk and basically finished myself off - financially by starting the second business. For a couple of years, MrsNOP and I cried, got angry, sold off assets, ate beans and rice a couple of meals a day (seriously) and slowly but surely, our new business started to make a profit. Three years from the start we were in the black. Five years from the start, we had paid off ALL of our debt. We are now in our tenth year.
The reason I tell you this is simple. Situations may change slowly, but they do change. Ultimately, unless you try, and sometimes even take a risk, you will never know what might have been, or how far you might have come.
I agree that a low wage job sucks, but look at what you can learn from it, and eventually apply to your own business. Opportunity is where you find it, and what you make of it.
So, get up, dust your ass off, and get back in there :-)
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
