HP, I am a bit slow on the uptake with things of this nature. I had a good friend in high school who had a crush on me for years. She was quite shy, and I am more obtuse that a corner on an enneakaidecagon. I didn't learn until much later that she was interested in me as more than a friend. The masseuse may be interested in me, but she has acted in a completely professional manner. Part of her gig is "intuitive" which is why she makes R comments. I have made it clear to her that I am very much interested in saving my M. She is often at the coffee shop, and even sets up a chair there for massage during special events, poetry readings, and such. She stopped in at the bar to check the status on a metal repair I was doing for her. I didn't even introduce her to my friends while she was there. That was rude, perhaps, but I didn't want to give her any ideas that I wanted to be more that a massage client to her.

When W snooped, she was looking for a key to our car, that I had in a drawer. I feel bad a little bit, because she asked if I knew where it was, and I said I didn't . That was back when the A was in full swing (not that I have any evidence that it is less than full swing now)

I offered to help W clean the mega house she has been working on the last few weeks. She seemed appreciative. I told her I would call her after work today. When I called, she was vacuuming, so she didn't hear. She returned my call an hour later. THe house is 1.5 hours from here, so I won't be going today. We ended up talking for 40 minutes. Mostly about the house and what is left to do thee. I told her about the bonus I made at work, and she seemed pleased. She said that she might like my help tomorrow. I will call her on my break to find out for sure. Trouble is, tomorrow is the day I take Yoga. I would like to help her, but I would hate top miss the class.

I can't make any promises right now about our M. It will take some serious work to rebuild this mess. The possibility of that work happening is improving with time, but trust seems to be a long way off.

BTW Choc, I'm not afraid of R talks at this point, but I don't try to initiate them. I try not to "test the waters" verbally, because it is counter productive, as I learned in the earlier panic filled days. I have been testing the waters physically, and she has responded, although in a very restrained manor. Talk is cheap, and trust is scarce.