IHJ, "and continue to show her affection/ desire ( without overwhelming her)." That is a fine line to walk. I told W this morning that I would give her space today, and I have done well to stay in the shop and let her do her thing. I know that she is trying to sort out her feelings, and I don't want her to feel pressured by me. She brought up some issues today, about having her own mind. I asked why she felt compelled to repeatedly tell me that shehad her own mind. She said that she said it because I don't think she knows what she wants. I told her that I knew what she wanted, and that she had made it clear to me, that she wanted a family, to feel loved and appreciated, to be happy, and to feel financially secure. I never underestimated her mind, and her mind is why I fell in love with her in the first place. I simply believe that all minds are influenced by others in concious and unconcious ways, and she was being influenced by OM. She obviously believed that herself, because she told me she backed off from A to "sort out her thoughts".
I know that she still loves me in her heart, and that her head is fighting it because of the strong feelings of resentment and past rejection. I need to find ways to show her that my changes are sincere, lasting, and substantial.
