I think I made it clear to W that I had a great willingness and capacity to forgive her. I can't forgive her until she stops talking to OM, and she hasn't yet. I am ready to start the work we need to repair the damage, but this is the point that requires commitment from W. I will stay in this holding pattern until I see that she is willing to work on the M. I will be sure not to come on too strong with my advances, because I don't want her to feel pushed away, or that I am needy and clingy. (But I do WANT HER!)
