That book is hardly perfect. That book at best describes one viewpoint, one aspect of relationship. There is a great deal more to it. We each bring our own pasts, fears, strengths and weaknesses to the table. Every relationship has stages. If you continue to insist on this one sided viewpoint the next stage your relationship will reach is called over. Is this what you are hoping for? If it isn't you need to read and consider some of the other materials mentioned by people on this site. Your anger is ok what isn't is your refusal to get past it and do something positive for your marriage.
