I recommend that you read through Cemar's posts and check for similarities with what you describe. Cemar is a very angry guy and it mostly keeps him from getting anywhere positive in his M.
I honestly feel for all the HD guys out there and agree that it is considered more socially acceptable for women to be LD. However, the many, many HDW's on this board will tell you that we don't feel it is any more natural for women to be LD than it is for men to be LD. The HDW's on this board for the most part have always been the more HD partner and have had to deal with the reality that while an LDW can "just do it" despite not being all that interested it won't happen that way with a LDH. Then there is the additional issue of talking over his LD without stripping him of his masculinity.
In the end result the only way anyone on this board ever got anywhere is through clear, consistent communication with their S about their needs. The emphasis on mutual trust, love and committment and letting go of much of the anger and resentment is imperitive.
I don't know enough of your personal situation to make specific suggestions but I do suggest that you read through the Nopkins posts to see the evolution of a marriage from sex starved to mutually fulfilling. All this despite having an LD wife who "had her reasons."
