It's fine not to contest the divorce, but did you make it clear to her that this isn't what you want? If you just said..."I'm not going to contest it" then it sounds like you are fine with the divorce. So did you tell her that the reason you are trying to make this as painless as possible is because you care for her and want her to be happy?
You have a number of months left to avoid the divorce or at least establish a good base for reconciliation post-D. But you still need to show through actions that you have changed and that you care.
Good luck
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
