Journey, I totally agree with this. While my goal is to be myself, I sometimes have to pick the right time and place in which to do this. In other words, I have to place his needs just as high as my own. I'm not selling myself out but I am having consideration for him. If he needs a break from my..ahem..exuberance, then I give it. But not so much that I begin to feel resentful or I feel stifled. It's a fine line and I don't always pull it off but it is much better than it was before. Then, I was going to either extreme--either I was being a bitch and inyerface with my me-ness or I was giving him so much room to breathe that both he and I forgot about sex entirely. It was depressing.
I would say that if it feels like a 'game', then you need to incorporate a little more NR into your routine.
