I think it's just a fact of civilized life that we can't act the way we feel. I think it's important to be true to ourselves, but what I am learning is that when you live with another person, you sometimes have to adjust your actions and behavior in order to have the best possible outcome. In doing so, you need to figure out a way that includes getting your own needs met, so there is a win-win situation. It does sound manipulative, but this is the price we pay for civilization.
